So things have changed quite a bit in the past few weeks...for one Dad bought a new van so now anyone can take him anywhere....he is able to drive his wheelchair into the vehicle and then gets strapped down with 4 ratchet straps and stays in his chair the whole time....this is a back saver for me because before this I was having to manually transfer him everytime he wanted to get in or out of the vehicle....it wasn't cheap by any means but hopefully he will be able to feel more active and less burdensome by having more mobility options...
Another reason it was good timing was I was finally offered a job about 1.5 weeks ago. I accepted a case management position with IPMG (Indiana Professional Management Group) and will be handling a caseload of approximately 29 Developmentally Disabled individuals and helping them reach their life goals...I'm super excited about this position for a multitude of reason but primarily because I work from my home office 50-75% of the time which will allow me to still take care of Dad but also allow me to feel like I'm accomplishing some of my own goals like finding a career.
We still have our daily challenges for sure but since I have more to occupy my mind with right now I try really hard to make the daily hiccups just that....hiccups that have to be dealt with but aren't the end of the world. Dad referred to me a couple of weeks ago as "she's become my best friend".....this made me cry...because I realize that I have become the best friend that he has...I'm there for him whenever he needs me.....we talk about everything.....I take care of him....and I'm always showing him how much I love him even when I don't want to....I unfortunately made a snide comment about how I may be his best friend but he's not mine which is true but I didn't mean to make it mean....I have several other people that I would consider to be my closest friends but by far my father has definitely become much more than just my Daddy in the past 7 months....I have a much deeper relationship with him than what I ever thought was possible....up until his accident I felt like I was losing contact with him because he was so focused on his relationship with Cheryl and at times I felt like he didn't have time for me and my sister....but since the accident we have all been forced to spend more time together and have re-established our family and what we mean to each other....it's hard to not have my mom here but I know that she would expect me to keep doing exactly what I'm doing to make sure her man is getting the best care he can!
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